What if the thing you’re grieving isn’t reality at all — but a future your mind convinced you was already yours?
In this episode, I dive into the expectations wave in Human Design and the neuroscience behind why expectation is so powerful — and sometimes, so painful. From the high of believing a future is guaranteed, to the crash when it slips away, expectations shape not just what we see, but who we believe ourselves to be.
Inside, I share:
✨ A client’s story of a speaking deal that fell through — and why the loss felt like an entire identity collapse.
✨ How another client’s long-distance relationship showed the gap between expectation and actual capacity.
✨ Everyday micro-moments where expectations tint your reality (the text, the promotion, the workout, the friend).
✨ The science of predictive processing, placebo/nocebo, and expectation-value theory — why your brain literally creates your perception.
✨ The deeper identity piece: you’re not just grieving events, you’re grieving who you thought you’d become.
✨ Practical tools to ride the wave without losing yourself: journaling, breathwork, reframing, nervous system regulation, and aligning with your Human Design authority.
This episode will help you see why expectations can feel so intoxicating, why the crash cuts so deep, and — most importantly — how to use this brain function as a gift instead of letting it wreck you.
Because if expectations shape perception, then curiosity shapes possibility. And that’s the filter I’d rather live in.
Resources + Links
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Curious if you have an expectations wave in your Human Design chart? Grab your free chart at HERE, then email me at [email protected] with the subject line Expectation Wave, and I’ll let you know.
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Ready to get out of survival mode and learn how to regulate your energy and emotions with Human Design? Book a free discovery call HERE.